Relationships are fragile and for me, transparency is key with people I am close to. This is about my disappointment with G because I checked my work email while I was on vacation. My bad. I thought writing about it would help me understand my reaction.
I try to treat people as I would like to be treated. But when I feel someone has crossed a line, I shut down. G will have to do a lot to ever regain my trust and friendship. She made a choice that she may believe is in her best interest but it has shut the door with me.
We need to be cognizant of boundaries -- not just our own but those of others.
Sometimes when someone crosses the line, they need to focus on their new destination and leave the past behind.
No one gives us the rule book but with life experience, we should have sufficient common sense to navigate the fragile threads that bind us to each other.
It comes down this: I despise games and value honesty. There is little time for manipulation.
Be straight -- even if it hurts.
Where G went astray is when she asked me if she could interview for another position and made some lame excuses, which I called her on. She was not honest. And by talking about it, she told me that she had already interviewed. I would have supported her but the way she did it hurt.
Her new life awaits her. I understand her rationale but her approach was uninspiring and dishonest. That is the crux of it and I need to get over myself on this issue.
What's next for me? How much longer at the insane asylum that is supporting my chosen lifestyle?
Maybe I need to write a business book first that will fund my lifestyle?
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