A friend of mine is having some challenges with her daughter. I have been listening and trying to be supportive for years. On this particular day after she shared the latest drama, she said: "Now, aren't you glad that you have no kids? You can just do what you want to do ... "
I was speechless. I got a lump in my throat and said: "Not really. I always thought I would have kids. But here I am right now and I am dealing with it." There was silence. And then she said: "You would have made a great mom. Those kids would have been lucky."
Was this upsetting? Yes. I find that many women with kids often tell me how lucky I am and then in the same breath, tell me how much they love cuddling with their kids when they watch a movie. There is no sensitivity. There is no thought about the struggles I have made over this especially as I get older.
And often, they start talking about adoption when they realized they crossed a line. I can't even respond to this right now.
I did not intend to be single. It just happened. I married too young, the first time. I married foolishly, the second time but there were some circumstances involved that were out of my control.
I am thankful everyday that I never had children with JD. My life would be a nightmare because of him. He is a living drama king who has no sense of anyone else.
But here I am and I am making the best of where I am and how I got here.
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