|“Disappointments are to the soul what the thunder-storm is to the air”|
Friedrich von Schiller quotes (German Poet, Dramatist, Philosopher and Historian. 1759-1805)
We compared notes on our divorces since his still is happening. It made me realize how far I've come. I was able to articulate how I was feeling so clearly.
About a month ago I was introduced to a woman who runs a consulting firm in Toronto. We had a great conversation and seemed to be on the page on how we see the world. Through our chat, we found out that we had a common friend and I realized that he had told me about her a year ago (it was the guy I talked to yesterday and asked him about her yesterday). During the call, she asked me if I was dating and told me she could introduce me to some great men. I shared that I was on a dating strike. If I met someone great naturally, it would be ok but I have no energy to do the dating game right now.
And then a few days later, this email appeared in my Inbox:
A is with XYZ in the valley and travels a lot. She is also single…and a lovely caring
I think u 2 would enjoy a conversation and some laughs about life
A, Tom is on my board of advisors and a very seasoned smart high tech Executive that I simply ADORE J
We started emailing each other and it was interesting since he is a worldly guy. But then it started becoming silly for me so I asked him directly what we were doing. I asked him about our pen pal relationship, even though we were not using pens. He responded that he sees this as networking and that we have graduated to friends now that we are friends on FaceBook. The pace of emails slowed down but he kept writing.
I received his last email last Friday and decided not to respond quickly. After talking to M yesterday, I realized how ridiculous it was and how much I've learned about being true to myself. I sent him an email saying that if he is in the Bay area, it would be good to meet. I am done with email. I don't need an email pal. I am swamped with email. i could use a Twitter pal :-) (cheeky, I know!)
Disappointments come from expectations. Since we are human, we will always have expectations. It's nice to see what's possible but I need to stay away from these type of situations.